I was networking the other day, and someone said to me, “Hi, Fashionista.” I felt a strange reaction in my gut and and also in my head. I didn’t really like being called that, yet I knew the person saying it meant it with love. She meant it as a compliment, but it made me feel weird.
The truth is, I don’t think of myself as a Fashionista. I don’t dress super trendy, and I have strong beliefs about wearing what is right for you and not necessarily what’s in, hot and trending. I appreciate what designers create and how they envision women wearing their styles. I love seeing what’s new, color trends, shapes, and styles.
However, one of my guiding principles has always been about making trends your own…seeing how to incorporate them into your style, finding what works best for you.
Networking last night (Yes, I do a lot of networking), I ran into a woman I had met once before. She greeted me with, ”How do I look?” I answered back with full sincerity, “How do you feel?” You see, she looked nice, was more upstyled than the last time I had seen her, but one of my strengths is “feeling’ how someone really feels. My gut felt her ambivalence. I sensed that she felt what she wore was okay, but what she really needed she didn’t own.
This doesn’t mean you need a closet full of clothes to feel great about your style. It could mean you have a great pair of black pants that you love because they fit well and you know it because you wear them over and over. One of my core beliefs is that getting dressed can be easy, fast and enjoyable. (Not just I’ll wear black again today by default.)
You have to want it! I say this over and over because it’s true. Shopping requires a strategy and a plan. Impulsivity will only bring random items into your wardrobe. Most stylists do not get who you are, I do!
This takes me back two years ago when the color orange was everywhere. When I walked into a store and started looking around, a salesperson said, “Let me show you what’s trending - it’s fabulous!” I remember looking at her and wanting to be my usual Pam and explain to her that not everyone could wear orange, should wear orange, or wanted to wear orange. It may be a fun color, but it’s not an easy color to wear.
I know that she was just doing her job, and I’m not dishing on salespeople because I used to be one of them. But ladies, clothing and accessories should feel like a second skin. You should almost forget what you're wearing because you are so comfortable. Getting dressed should be easy.
But not everything is for everybody. That’s why I say, choose style over fashion.
I received a note in the mail today, let me share it with you:
Thank you so much for your help finding my dress to wear to the wedding in February. I tried on the shrug we purchased before, and it’s perfect. I’m so excited to wear it…I know I’ll be comfortable and look great. Thanks again for your help. You’re teaching me how to have confidence in myself.”
And this, my friends, is the icing on the cake - nothing makes me happier than hearing this.
That is what Personal Wardrobe Styling is all about. That is the reward of shopping with someone who understands you and truly cares that you’re happy. That is what shopping with An Eye for Detail is all about. I shop with integrity, mindfulness of who you are, how you want to look and feel, and I’m conscious of the budget you set. Bodies change, lifestyles change - however you deserve to feel your best. I would love to help you find or refind your style.